It all starts with self worth.
The way you see yourself is how other people will see you, will treat you. Why?
Because how you see yourself is how you will project yourself to other people.
And when it comes to relationships, there must be a balance between self worth
and love for the other.
But what if it gets too much? On
those nights that you weep in silence and on those mornings that you try to
hide your puffy eyes. Your eyes used to sparkle, your smile? Beaming. You used
to feel giddy and silly and happy. What happened?
Life happened, dear. People and
things change, everything does. But despite that, you hold on, you fight for
the relationship, you refuse to let go. That is commendable, that makes you a
strong individual. A person so beautiful and selfless enough to put someone
over the self. A person who just loves, who trusted and hoped for great days
and hugs and kisses and love. And in some unfortunate way, the person you love
turned into someone you don’t know anymore, someone who makes you feel used and
unwanted. The person who put you on a pedestal, who expressed love for you so
fervently then now makes you feel like a worthless person. What happened?
Love is sacrificing, yes. But
there are limits and breaking points where you either stay or go. Moments that
would either break you or break you, it is now a matter of which is the lesser
evil, which would hurt less. Think about all those times that you suffered in
silence. Those times that you shared your heart’s burden to the person you
love, but like everything, it was left ignored and unheard. Remember those
nights that you waited on the dinner table until the food becomes cold, those
nights that you see happy couples and you have to immediately draw in strength
from yourself just so your eyes would remain dry, those nights that you blamed
yourself. Feel the gripping pain in your heart as you listen to the songs that
reminded you of happy days and to the songs that talk about your pain, remember
the times that you hoped and said “Maybe this time, things will be better.” But
they never did. Think about all those things and think about the happy days.
Think about how he made you feel special on random moments and how he used to
sing for you. Read his love letters, his texts and posts on Facebook. Believe
when he says “I love you.” And beat yourself up the next day because you believed.
Give him another chance, like all the other previous chances you gave him. And
watch him ruin it all over again. Then be happy again. Then be crushed again.
Until you run out of bandages to fix your broken heart.
How will you know if enough is
enough? How long do you hold on to abusive
relationships? How many apologies and reconciliations are needed before you
finally say it’s over? How long will you believe on unhealthy relationships that ruin you more and more everyday? How
long will you have to go through so much pain when in the first place, you know
you could have something better. When will you reclaim your self worth?
Abusive relationships are downward spirals. There are relationship issues that could be
talked over and fixed and there are also cases that the relationship in itself is
already the problem. You can never make a relationship work alone, it is always
a two way street.
Know your worth. Choose Happiness.
Know that you have all the right
in the world to be happy.
Know that there are so many
people out there who will love you, who love you. If only you will give them a
chance.
Know that you need to give
yourself a chance. Give happiness a chance.
Never forget that you are a
beautiful person. A person who deserves so much better. A person who can still
pursue that dream, who still have so many options. There are so many people who
are willing to help you and save you from abusive
relationships. You can still start a new and move forward. Be open to life.
Live life and please, love yourself.
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